Attention Military Spouses

Hello and welcome!

I have been a military wife since 1998 and have only 4 years left, if my husband decides to retire at his 20 year mark.  I have had the idea of a book in my head for a couple of years for new military spouses, namely Army.  Not that I’m biased of the other branches, but it’s what I know and writers have to write what they know.  Being a new military wife was scary, confusing, and everything was new.  I had no real help, guidance, and learned everything on my own.  Plus, we all experience everything differently. 

My point of this blog is I need help, other’s viewpoints, opinions (pros & cons), experiences (good & bad), and to help me remember what it’s like to be new in this unique lifestyle.  I will be happy to give you credit under my credits page as a contributor or a small profile at the end of the book, with a link to your personal/business website.  This is definitely not a project I can do on my own.  I don’t think this is an area where just one opinion is beneficial!  These are the things I am looking for, and again, please share the bad with the good, I wish I had been forewarned on a lot of things.  Please submit anything and everything you can from the ideas below and anything else you would like to add.    I want to hear from both men and women who are married to someone in the army.  Even if you are a soldier and married to a soldier, please feel free to share your words of wisdom.  🙂

Please submit anything to me at gwenmooncat@gmail.com and in the subject line please put Army Spouse Book

The order of these ideas are in no specific order, some may or may not become chapters in the book, I haven’t decided the details yet.  I just type them up as they come to mind.  Please be sure to read through all of them carefully and feel free to comment on everything and anything you see here, or not.  I will also include anything I find will be beneficial, such as army acronyms, the ranks, the difference between enlisted and officers (commissioned and non-commissioned), relocation information, Tricare information, how to read an LES (Leave & Earnings Statement), information on BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing), TDY (Temporary Duty for a Year), COLA (Cost Of Living Allowance), College for Spouses, activities for spouses (arts & crafts stuff, for one), Where to find help, etc….If you feel something should be included, even if it’s obviouse, please let me know!!!  I may have totally forgotten something that is key.  Again, this is why I’m reaching out to you. 

I have a couple of specifications.  Please no swearing, I know swearing can be a common place in the military, but let’s keep it clean.  Second, I understand that there are those spouses out there that hate the military life, don’t support the military life or their spouses.  As sad as I find that, I want to know why.  And I know sometimes it’s easier to report and share the negative, but let’s put some positive out there.  After all, this book is for new spouses, let’s give them a great deal of hope that they can get through this, and prepare them for what may come.  I also have a section below for recruiting spouses, this is a whole new lifestyle in its own. 

Thank you in advance!

  • Pros and Cons of living in government quarters (I agree, it was better before housing was privatized or run under non-military property management.)  If you have lived under one or the other or even under both forms, please share your thoughts and experiences.
  • What are your good experiences of living in government quarters?
  • What are your bad experiences of living in government quarters?
  • What are your good experiences of living in civillian housing while in the military?
    What are your bad experiences of living in civillian housing while in the military?
  • Pros and Cons of DTY (do it yourself) move
  • Pros and Cons of JPPSO (Joint Personal Property Shipping Office) move
  • Pros and Cons of a partial DTY and partial JPPSO move
  •  What have you found are great ways to support your army spouse?
  • What have you found are not helpful in the support of your army spouse?
  • Pros and Cons of FRG (Family Readiness Group) or as it was once known as FSG (Family Support Group)
  • What are your good experiences with FRG?
  • What are your bad experiences with FRG?
  •  How do/did you help your children get through the constant moving?
  • Pros & Cons of military doctors, hospitals, clinics, etc?
  • What words of advice do you have for new army spouses? 
  • Okay, whether you want to admit it or not, we have all made some sort of mistake or two (or more) being a military wife.  It comes with the territory.  So many rules, so many ranks, so much stuff to learn.  You’re at the bosses house for a party, you mess up or you’re at a fancy military ball and you forget someone’s name.  Anything!  I want to hear funny stories too, and I know others would too.  After all, if we can’t laugh at ourselves…..I will be sharing my own embarrassing and funny times too.
  • As a military spouse, what have you learned about yourself?
  • Do’s & Don’ts of being a military spouse?  What do you think would be the “ideals” of being a military spouse?  If there were laws for being a military spouse, what do you think they should be?  What have you seen as bad judgement on other army spouses?
  • What do you think the military should have for us spouses?
  • What words of wisdom or advice do you wish you had been given in the beginning?  What do you wish someone had told you in the beginning but didn’t?
  • What are the most important things that must be done before the next PCS (Permanent Change of Station)?  I will make a time-table for this, such as what should be done before receiving orders but what to do upon receiving word of move, what to do after receiving orders, and then timeline from there, up to two to three months before PCS move.  I will make two lists; one for overseas move, even if overseas move is back to the United States and one for within CONUS (CONtinental United States).  What have you found helpful and not helpful to do (with or without having children). 
  • What funny, not so funny, rude, or even silly “truths” have you hear about the military?  The Army?  It’s Spouses?

This is all the ideas I have for now.  Please help!  Thanks!

Attention Recruiting Families:  This next section of questions and ideas is just for you!  If you’ve done any duty out on recruiting, except for hometown recruiting, this is for you.  Whether D.A. (Department of the Army) or not, your experiences are most welcomed, please share ideas and thoughts from the above as well!  If you haven’t done a tour in recruiting duty, please go back to the ideas above.

  • As a recruiter spouse, past or present, what advice would you give a brand new recruiting spouse? 
  • How did you adapt to living in the civillian world after being on or near a military post/base? 
  • Did you prefer a military school over a civillian school?  Why or why not?  What differences did you experience?
  • How did you help your children adapt to the long and stressful hours of recruiting?
  • How did you feel about going back to a civillian doctor, hospital, clinic, etc?
  •  As a recruiter’s spouse, what have you learned about yourself?
  • Do’s & Don’ts of a recruiter’s spouse?  If there were certain “laws”, what do you think they should be?  What have you seen as bad judgement on other army spouses?
  • What do you think the military should have for us spouses? 
  • What words of wisdom or advice do you wish you had been given in the beginning?  What do you wish someone had told you in the beginning but didn’t?
  • What funny, not so funny, rude, silly “truths” have you heard about recruiters?  Their spouses?

 

 

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